In case we haven’t met yet…
In the beginning learning how to build confidence and find happiness was all about ME because I wanted to feel better about myself, and now it is about YOU because I want you to experience exactly how I can support you to change any part of your life by getting into the right thinking space.
My name’s Sophia, and my life isn’t some kind of crazy perfect; parts of it are out of my full control but I know that I will always be there for myself no matter what and my thinking is always under my control. Burying myself under a duvet and hoping the things I don’t like will go away or just sort themselves out is no longer an option. Confidence comes from giving my best and knowing that no matter what,I will look out for myself. Same for you.
I know from personal and professional experience the tools, techniques and experiences that get women like you results.
If you aren’t head over heels happy with the life you are living there are three obvious choices: hope it all just goes away and life gets better, push through with a pile of shelf-help books, or choose to work with a professional like me who can support you to build confidence and a life that feels like you (forget people pleasing).
Seven years ago I took the hard route and tried the first two. I didn’t get far. I had myself convinced that I was making progress because I had notebooks jam-packed with lists of how I wanted life to be, but I wasn’t taking any action. I was s-t-u-c-k, and overwhelmed.
Finding out the man I was married to in those days had been having an affair for almost ten months was the wake-up call I needed to transform inside-out. It cracked me wide open in a way I didn’t know possible. I decided to take massive responsibility for my life: I quit my 9-5 career, packed up my house and travelled. I started from scratch because the truth is I didn’t want to rebuild my life; I wanted a whole new one, and that had to start inside me.
2017 has also been a year of radical transformation. I found out for the first time last summer that I had a congenital heart defect, a 3.5cm hole between the upper two chambers of my heart. On March 29th this year I had 100% successful open heart surgery to correct the atrial septal defect. It was a stressful time but I dread to think how much worse it would have been if I didn’t live and breathe the range of tools, techniques and mindset strategies that I know, and share with my clients. My recovery has been fantastic. In the first month post surgery I walked 114 miles, and I now have more energy, enthusiasm, and determination to help you find and live the life you want.
The only thing standing between you and the life you want is the way you’ve been trained to think. You feel the way you think – everything starts with you. We’ll work together to uproot the thoughts keeping you stuck, replace your old thinking habits with healthy ones, and teach you the skills you need to be your own coach and best friend.
Growing up my nickname was Miss Mouse. It’s fair to say I was timid. I clung to that self image for dear life because it kept me safe, but deep down I wanted to explore the world, to do my own thing, to start new exciting conversations, to look in the mirror and love the woman who looked back. The life where I was ‘going through the motions’ hurt. Change is inevitable, progress is not. I chose progress. I chose to soften, to be vulnerable, to trust the intelligence of my heart. I chose to learn how to deal with my negative chitter-chatter and create a life I love.
I took the long way round to get my to a place I enjoy. It was only when I invested in support to show me what I couldn’t see for myself that it began to change, my mind expanded, and the real me emerged. I love her. I had no idea that it was my thinking that was holding me back. It had been so easy to blame lack of time or money or the people around me. Turns out it was ME. It was MY thinking that had to change. It’s the same for you, and that’s great because I can show you how.
Life isn’t about being perfect (what’s perfect anyway?), for me it’s about growth, being happy, present, loving and evolving. The most transformative experience of my life has been the simple act of learning to love myself daily.
I’m going to tell you a secret: you can be happy too. I’ve learned from seven years of helping women create incredible lives that not every woman is ready to do this work. The fact that you’re here reading this now sets you apart.
I believe in you. Borrow my belief until you do too.
I’d love to be a part of your journey to Create Confidence, with Soul. If you’d like to find out more about how I can help you call me on 07787 701 131.
