Happiness is a state of mind.
When you don’t have it it feels like you’ve been robbed; you’re in constant debt and everything’s a hassle.
When happiness knocks on your door you view it with suspicion – ‘it won’t stay long, it never does’.
So why is it when misery knocks on your door you’re convinced it’ll be there forever?
Your mind is fickle and has adopted many unhelpful ways of thinking. You need to tame it. Make a conscious choice now to understand how it works and master it.
Contrary to popular belief things do not make you happy, at least not for long. Some of the wealthiest people on the planet consider themselves unhappy, some of the poorest are joyful.
If you want happy know that it requires a new way of thinking and consistency, just as you need to stoke a fire to keep it burning.
- Stand tall every day. Imagine you have a thread that lifts your sternum up towards the sky, and another extending from the crown of your head. Feel your upper torso lift in a way that creates an open heart and space for your lungs to fully inflate. Let the body move in a relaxed way – make it physically open to being happy. When you move look out at eye level and above, don’t be the chewing gum police.
- Smile often, laugh, exercise daily
- Bring to mind several happy memories (events, people you love, possible future events) and go into each one in detail. Take yourself there now – hear what you heard, feel what you felt, see what you saw. For future events imagine it how you want it to be. Physically get the feeling into your body – feel the difference? Now for the super simple part. Place a coloured dot (I like to use heart stickers) in places that you will see them daily. Each time you see one vividly relive that happy memory. Your mind cannot tell the difference between what is happening right now and what happens in your mind. That’s why you used to make yourself feel so bad and now you can use the same technique to make yourself feel happy! (based on research by Dr Robert Holden)
- Do things that generate happy feelings in you!
It’s important that you don’t deny or cover up genuine unhappy feelings. Learn how to tell the difference between a feeling that needs to be fully felt and explored, and habitual feelings of being down in the dumps.
Once you train your mind to be positive keep taking it there until your natural state once more becomes one of happiness and joy. Repetition is the mother of learning. If you want to do the deep inner work that uproots your negative habits, clears away your old programming, and gives you the confidence and happiness you need to thrive email me – firstname.lastname@example.org. It’s my professional forte.