Whose life is it anyway? Here are a few words I’d like to share: a little reflection on ‘how your life shaped up’ and how you might like it to.
I think about growing up now as if I’m already a grown up but the reality is I’m always a work in progress. The day that I stop growing or exploring or expanding is the day I’d like you to push me off the edge, please.
Forget WHAT you wanted to be growing up, did you ever stop to ask yourself HOW you wanted your life to be? I know nurses who have a charmed life. I know nurses with the life from hell. I know top accountants who are tired and wired. I know top accountants who are very blissed. I know life coaches who nearly walk on water. I know others barely able to walk on earth.
You see HOW you are only has so much to do with WHAT you do for a living. It’s so much more to do with your outlook on life and unless you’ve done a whole load of digging around (or enjoyed prolonged enlightenment) the likelihood that you’re living a life TRUE to you is somewhat questionable.
How do you really desire to live? Have you ever asked yourself?
What did you grow up believing? You have to work hard to make anything of yourself? You’ve made your bed so now you lie on it? Respectable women marry and have a family. A career woman is a bitch. You can’t have it all. Behind every successful man stands a woman. Never trust a good looking man. Women are only after one thing. Women should stay at home and nurture their family. A man is the breadwinner.
Were you brought up to believe that money doesn’t grow on trees, that you shouldn’t have ideas above your station?
How does ALL of this stuff affect your life right now? What choices are you making based on the stories that 0-7 year old version of YOU heard? Question question question everything you’ve ever been taught and get in touch with what YOU want right now. THIS you, not the slightly more grown up one of tomorrow, or the slightly more immature one of yesterday.
Are you living the life your mum steered you towards? The one your dad mapped out for you? The one your grandparents told you was THE way (all of this was well-meaning I’m sure).
It takes confidence and courage to live your truth without apology. What’s the point in anything less?
There are people I know who would have preferred that I stay in corporate with a pension plan and a nice little house. Mostly they’ve drifted away to be replaced by the ones who LOVE and respect the fact that I quit it all for a life that is Sophia shaped through and through. What did I choose? A life where I can help people to live a life true to them, a way to share yoga (not just the postures), a life where I can write and get paid for it. It’s a life where I can travel (inside and out). It’s a life that makes my heart sing and my feet dance (yes, both left ones). I chose to build a successful portfolio career. I chose to invest in property not a pension.
I wanted a life where time was more MINE or OURS than anyone else’s. I want to be able to take leisurely strides to my place of work (I only have to go upstairs). I want to be able to pop out for herbal tea. I want to shop on any day but Saturday. One day I want to pick up my children from school (I’m not a biological mum yet). I want to be able to cook healthy food and not grab something last minute. I want to take a nap, read for a while, have a bath on a Monday morning instead of sitting in traffic. I want to create from a place of intention, not desperation.
I chose to feel happy. At peace. Fulfilled. In love. I savour relaxation and experiences and time with loved ones. This is the only time we’ve got.
It took time for me to shape this life. It took self-enquiry. It took a little coaxing and coaching. It took a radical overhaul of all that I thought was me until my true shape stood out and the rest fell away.
What’s it going to take for you?
If you’re ready to live with confidence, courage, and an open heart to all that has been and all that will be and you need a professional hand, drop me a line. The only time is now.
PS – I found this sketch on deviantart.com by Professor DeLune. I love it. I hope they love how I’ve used it too!