Insecure and Vulnerable…
These are two of the words I most frequently hear my super-sensitive clients use to describe their state.
We’ve suffered bruises along the way as HSPs and now as fully grown women the time is here to let go of these massive labels we’re used to wearing.
It takes a BRAVE person to admit to feeling vulnerable or insecure and I haven’t met a person yet who doesn’t feel one or the other when they are up to BIG THINGS in the world.
When I feel either here’s what I do:
1) Ground myself – go for a walk (barefoot if possible in the garden)
2) Drink more water
3) Put some essential oil on my lower back (patchouli very grounding)
4) Write down everything that is contributing to my sense of insecurity – often this can be bundled into only 3-4 things but individually they seem huge. Once they’re listed (for example) as ‘workload, family, health’ they seem easier to handle
5) Ask myself what feels very safe and secure in my life right now – might be something as simple as knowing what I am having for lunch that day
6) Tune into how my body feels when I’m vulnerable – is it brittle, soft?
7) What do I need to reinstate harmony? A bath? Massage? Exercise? Journal?
8) I ask HOW DO I WANT TO FEEL TODAY? What do I need to do to bring about those feelings?
9) I notice what has tipped me into these feelings and how best can I support myself in the future?
Here’s the thing – feeling insecure and vulnerable is ok, the issue is the judgement that we pass on having those feelings; we make ourselves wrong and stuff the feelings down thinking we should be beyond them.
We’re super sensitive – we feel things intensely – it’s a gift.
Feel. Learn. Make emotions and feelings your friends. They’re not going to leave you.
Tap into the business activities that you need to do this week – what do you need to happen to feel supported? Accountability with a friend or your coach? An extra coaching session? A chat with your mum? Book an appointment with yourself and go deep – you’re an expert at it!
Whatever you need grant yourself permission. If you’re ready to take the next step and hire a coach then email me firstname.lastname@example.org and let’s see if we’re a good fit to work together.